This is a quote I try to remember as I help Gavin become more independent. Sometimes I’m frustrated that he cannot learn most things on his own. He needs to trust us completely and it takes the smallest of baby steps for him to reach each goal, and that is okay.
“Children don’t learn independence.
They grow independent.
And they do it naturally in their own time, just like they learn to crawl and walk and talk in their own time.
The simplest and most effective approach to growing independence is, ironically, to meet children’s attachment needs,
It is trust that frees children to grow, explore, and develop, not forced independence or broken attachments.”
— L.R. Knost